Using the word broken home for a household being run by a single parent just sounds so negative and makes for a much more painful situation as it already is. Granted, children coming from single parent homes might be disturbed and often unhappy, but so are children coming from normal households. It has been proven that single parents are as capable of raising great kids as anyone else and here are some guidelines that a newly separated, divorced or widowed parent may use to have a good start to their new role of sole parent in the house and bring up a gem of a child.
It is a better option for both you and your child if you treat single parenthood as a good option and not as something you have to do because if the situation. Talk about all the advantages of the situation like more one on one time with your child, and less conflicting decisions in the home. With time you realize that you actually enjoy your independence in the home and you start making the most of the situation.
Being a single parent means realizing that you are one person doing the job of two and therefore, you will be overworked. It is essential that you manage your time well and ask for help whenever you need to. By doing his, you teach your children how to be strong regardless of whatever life throws their way and to deal with any situation no matter how tough it is.
Everything that goes wrong in the house is not because you are a single parent. Do not allow yourself or your children to think this way. This is because they may be able to use this against you by guilt tripping you into doing whatever they want. Teach them that when such situations occur the family needs to stick together and not manipulate each other for personal gain.
It is important to remember that your kids have suffered a shock from the death of a parent or because of your divorce. The most important thing for them right now is a sense of security and stability and it is up to you to give them that. Keep telling them that you love them, that you are proud of them and that everything is going to be okay. There is no sight better than that of a happy, carefree and secure child.
Your children’s well being depends on how well you take care of yourself. Be extra cautious about your diet, work out regularly, take a break now and then and take time out to enjoy yourself. If you are stressed out and unwell, you will eventually take it out on your kids and that has a negative effect on them.
No matter how mature your child might seem, as a single parent it is imperative that you do not depend upon them for emotional support and hurt them emotionally without realizing it. This is a common mistake made by many single parents unintentionally and it may lead to the child growing up to have relationship issues. Let your child, be a child and turn to any other friend or family member for support!