It is a perfectly understand phenomenon; we tend to be perplexed by how to deal with people who have the knack to irate us. It is difficult to alter the ability of others to get the best of our emotions, however, with a little bit of practice, one can most certainly alter how they feel about bothersome people. Here is a set of tips to help you cope with individuals who manage to truly inconvenience you.
When in an argument with that someone who knows just how to push your buttons the wrong way; just take a deep breath and drown the urge to give him a smart reply. Rather than prolonging the argument, give them the impression that they have ‘won’ the argument. Save your opinions for those who matter.
Most bothersome people are usually looking for opportunities to get in to an argument and proving themselves to be superior. While they are busy doing that, you should learn to stay quiet and ignore. Arguing with a bothersome person will get you nowhere and you would end up wasting your time on a pointless argument. So learn to control the situation, just ignore whatever comes out of the person’s mouth and think of something more productive. Or better yet, just try and change the topic.
Don’t forget, you are your own boss! This means you get to control your own life and decide who stays in it and who isn’t. So if you find yourself really upset with a bothersome person, just set a clear boundary, reminding him/her about their importance in your life and the limit to which you can bear them. If the situation gets out of hand then rather than getting in to a heated argument, avoid them.
It is essential to remember that you feel confident about yourself. Your confidence and self belief should be so strong that it shouldn’t even matter what the person who provokes you is doing/saying. As long as you are comfortable knowing that you are not on the same mental level of this person, and most probably never will be, you should be good to go. Just agree to disagree. You can enforce your version of reality on anyone.
And lastly, if all else fails and you find yourself trapped in a tough situation, then speak up! Make clear points and help others understand what you are trying to say. Ask the person who is bothering you to simply explain their point.